But not because of the panic or my feelings about dating.

I decided after all your great advice to decide today whether or not to meet the guy for coffee. I was leaning towards going on the date to “get back out there” because for me, many times, I just have to grit my teeth and do it. I decided to go to take a look again at his profile and our mutual answers (which is one reason why I like OKCupid), since when I first started liking/passing people I wasn’t super attentive.

And I had missed a BIG RED FLAG - the guy is 40 and he has his age range for women as “25 to 38". He does not want to date women his own age and for me that’s a BIG FUCKING NO. I have no patience anymore for guys who will only date younger women, for reasons obvious to most of you here at Groupthink.

I realized after last night that I’m ready to dip my toe in the water dating wise, so I will stay on the site, but I’ve decided to be super picky about who it is with. It doesn’t have to be with a guy I’m super excited about, but it does have to be with someone who meets some of my basic criteria.

Thanks y’all, I’ll be cuddling with my dog and cat and Netflixing instead :-)