How does one say that? Someone really upset me at the fetish party and I told them I was upset, and now she and her boyfriend are very upset that I'm upset.

She wants to talk to me. I don't want to. I don't know how to be angry, I'm uncomfortable with anger, and I'm triggered on top of it so I want to calm down before I decide whether or not to talk to her. She brought up something earlier that I had done to her and I assumed she had forgiven me for, and tried to use that to make me talk to her: "You really upset me that one time, yet I still gave you the chance to talk to me," she said. "My boyfriend is really sad. He wants to talk to you but doesn't know how" she said. "I'm leaving soon and I want to make things right before I do," she said. Is that guilting? Is that manipulative? I don't know. I honestly don't know anything except I wish I could pretend it never happened.

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