Dudebros of the world, Women against feminism tumblristas, hear me when I say: it can be done! It is possible to approach a woman, in a way that is neither sleazy nor terrifying. Even somewhere as awkward as a McDonalds parking lot.
Today, I stopped by McDonalds on my way in to work. I hadn't eaten since breakfast and it was probably the only thing I was going to be able to get something and still get in to work on time. The drive through was a little full, so I ran inside.
As I'm about to leave, this guy taps on my window. Which is startling and could definitely get creepy, but all he did was tap and step back to a fairly non-threatening distance. When I rolled down my window, he introduced himself and said something to the effect of:
"Hey, look, I don't usually do this, but I just saw you over there, something about your face just struck me...I just wanted to say hi and see if you wanted to go out sometime... I'm not a weirdo, I have a regular job as a [I forget what exactly, but something pretty normal]. I just broke up with my girlfriend...here's my number...think about it"
And that was it. He just left his phone number and his name and didn't try to corner me or pressure me for an answer.
(As I'm writing this down, I'm realizing exactly how important delivery is. That exact same speech could definitely be weird and creepy, but the guy seemed really sincere—and not in that practiced sincere way that dudes who hit on a lot of women have.)
I'm not sure if I will call him (can't be too much more dangerous than OKCupid, right?) but I also wasn't terrified or freaked out during the entire experience.
I have been randomly hit on at random places, by random guys in myriad bizarre and baffling ways and I always reject these dudes out of hand, but this is the first time that I have ever been approached as though I was an actual human being that another human being found interesting.