I wonder what we could call that culture.
This read is not anything you and I don't know, but it's sickening nonetheless.
He surveyed about 1,800 men, asking them a wide range of questions about their sexual experiences. To learn about sexual assault, he asked things like, "Have you ever had sex with an adult when they didn't want to because you used physical force?" When the results came back, he was stunned.
All told, 120 men in the sample, or about 6 percent of the total, had raped women they knew. Two-thirds of those men were serial rapists, who had done this, on average, six times. Many of the serial rapists began offending before college, back in high school.
I'm amazed even that many admitted it. I wouldn't be surprised if the number in that survey was higher. (Side note, I am not a science writer and I cannot verify that it is necessarily a *good* study, but nonetheless, as I said, we all knew this already anyway).
"Most of these men have an image or a myth about rape, that it's some guy in a ski mask wielding a knife," says Lisak. "They don't wear ski masks, they don't wield knives, so they don't see themselves as rapists.
Ding ding ding! This is rape culture, friends; making sure that rape only fits neatly into a little box very few men can relate to. It's an "other people" problem.
Encouragingly, this story is really about some programs that are teaching, essentially, consent in high school. The theory, of course, is that men who influence other men not to rape will be more effective. On its face, I find that really aggravating - that we can't even advocate for ourselves because of just how much people discount the voices of women. However, if there is a way that can effectively reduce rape, I'm all for it.
MVP, or Mentors in Violence Prevention, matches upperclassmen with groups of incoming freshmen. Throughout the school year, the older kids facilitate discussions about relationships, drinking, sexual assault and rape.
These conversations are tough, often awkward, in high school. A lot of the mentors still haven't confronted this kind of situation in real life by the time they graduate. But once they get to college, says Iowa State University junior Tucker Carrell, a former MVP mentor, the scenarios come to life.
Tucker says that he's not afraid to confront his Delta Tau Delta fraternity brothers when they talk about women in a way that makes him uncomfortable. He'll sit down with them, sometimes even bringing a woman they've hit on into the conversation.
The day we talked, Tucker said he'd used his MVP training to intervene in a situation just the night before.