I have a quandry, a pickle if you will. A few days ago, I had a disagreement with another commenter (not an established GTer guys no one freak out) who I felt was violating the "don't be a dick" rule. I said so, and was treated to really venemous and aggressive responses, including "you should go have sex with your father, I'm sure he's waiting for you."

Now, I dismissed, because I've been around the block enough to know that's what ya do. But I've realized I'm really uncomfortable with the language that was used towards me, and I would like to contact the mods because I don't really feel safe on GT knowing this person could be around. So I decided last night to contact the mods, even though it had been a few days.

Except that I couldn't find the comments in my notifications. I thought if you dismissed someone, your/their comments were still on the respective kinja blogs, and they would stay in your notifications (my plan was to screenshot the exchange since I couldn't link the thread, having dismissed it).

I guess the post was deleted, which is fine, except I feel like that leaves me with no proof and feeling unsettled and unsafe. Has anyone dealt with this kind of thing in the past and do I have any recourse here, before I bring this explicitly to the mods?