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I'd been having a lot of pain. And my face would burn this bright red color like I'd been in the sun. But, I took it as a matter of course in my daily life. It was me. It was what my body did.

Then, I went on a diet to eliminate potential food allergies. The Most Boring Diet in the Universe (tm). http://www.precisionnutrition.com/elimination-di…

When I tried to add milk back, my face swelled up like a balloon. A red balloon. (I also discovered I can't really eat some kinds of meat easily. And my body really hates processed food. Go figure.)


I realized all those years of pain (not describing further because gross) and red face and zits, even, were 100% because of the my allergy to milk products.

I can't even have soft cheese. I can eat hard cheeses, but even they cause lots of bloat, so no. I tried having pizza without the cheese. People. It is almost not worth it.

And fake cheese is not for me.

So, I became a person who doesn't eat milk products. And I have always thanked my lucky stars that I live in a society where I have the privilege of choosing my foods. Even more, I ACTUALLY HAVE FOOD. I don't go hungry, unless it's a choice. Thank god. My child doesn't go hungry. (Although, honestly, she lives on freaking air. It's crazy.)


This small experience leads to a larger point I wish we would discuss. That is, we live in a privileged situation with food, if we can sit around arguing what we can leave out and why or why not that is an ethical problem.

To note, Petticoat's post was one of the most well written things I've read in a long time. She speaks directly to this problem of privilege because, for her, it is the opposite problem. She has very little choice in her eating habits, and while she is lucky to be in a society where she can get more choice, in the end, it means nothing, because her situation has a unique dilemma wrapped up in it, one that should be respected. Health reasons should be respected. Religious reasons should be respected. I hope we are all aware some people have religious restrictions on their food choices.


Many of us go on particular diets for health reasons or for emotional reasons or for ethical reasons. Those reasons are right for us, each one of us, at that particular time. However, and here's where I'm concerned we get off the track, when we start using massive generalizations or red herrings or other logical fallacies (name-calling) to denigrate people who live differently from us. That's not okay. It's derailing and lacks any kind of useful application, except to get out anger, perhaps smearing that anger all over someone who isn't guilty of the offense.

My other concern is the way in which a lot of the people here have claimed language in particular ways. As you know, language has power; it is power, if you use the right words. The sticks and stones thing? A total lie. Words do hurt. Not original, I know, but there it is. Also, words take power and represent power. We are all really good with our words here. Fuck academic language; that's not the point. We are all reasonably good at putting together our thoughts for each other. That's another type of privilege. We ride a fine line, when we tell people they aren't "allowed" to claim certain words. Even if it's the wrong word, something is happening that is upsetting and troublesome, obviously. Perhaps we should address the underlying issues, as opposed to the vocabulary.


**Edited to add: I wrote this yesterday. So, it's not about the post about the red herring fallacy called tone policing. I'm not trying to start a fight, and I have no hidden agenda. I just wonder sometimes if we yelling so loudly, that maybe we're not listening?

I am open to being wrong. Please don't yell if you can get away with it. It's not that yelling is a problem or cursing. I'm not tone policing right now. I'm just really tired. Long, long week. And I'd rather just discuss stuff, with the option to being an idiot left wide open.

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