Hi! Hope all is well over here in GT. I’m starting a one-year residency program all the way on the other side of the US in June (I’m from the east coast). I’ve been with my boyfriend for 5 years, and I mean, this is the dude I want to marry and we’ve talked about getting engaged soonish. Anyway, he has a great job in our current area, so we definitely don’t want him to change it because I fully intend to come back to this area to practice.

However, he wants to talk to his boss to see if he can maybe work remotely and come with me for a year (or at least several months) to the west coast. He does programming stuff, and a lot of his coworkers work most of the week from home. I know it sounds crazy because his job doesn’t have a base in the west coast, and we don’t feel confident about his boss letting him move to the other side of the country for a year while still working at his company (it sounds like a hefty request, I know). So, I’m trying to prepare myself for the long distance. I’m sad and scared. I’m excited for my residency program and the city I’ll be in (it’s a city I truly love and have visited in the past), but I want him there. The thought of not having him there with me makes me feel guilty for going, even though he’s been so supportive of me. He’s seriously my best friend.

I’m so, so worried. I know we can make it work because it’s only a year. I just don’t want either of us to feel lonely. It’s not like I can even drive to see him on weekends. It’s more like a 6 hour flight!

Have any of you been in an LDR? Mind sharing stories of how you made it through?