I just got off the phone with my mother. She was telling me all about Lisa Copeland, who was in my hometown to give a talk about dating over 50. My mom's friends wanted to go and she went with them, even though she's taking a break from dating right now (my dad died about three years ago). So I'm thinking "Oh, that sounds fun, I'm glad she went to that because I think she'll be ready to date soon and maybe she heard some useful stuff."

But then my mom starts talking about how Lisa recommends that women should be more feminine (read: pretty and submissive) in order to attract men, and that we all want alpha males but if we're alpha women we'll only attract beta males.

So then I did some Googling and found this lovely article all about how Katie Couric can't find love despite being conventionally attractive and smart and successful - because she's just not good enough about hiding her talents so that alpha men don't feel threatened by her. (Then in the end it goes on to say that beta men aren't so bad after all because they have feelings, unlike those rugged alpha males who exist on cigars and bacon alone.)

An alpha male wants to cherish his woman by showing her he can protect her financially, emotionally and physically to the best of his ability. This role makes a woman like Katie feel safe and protected. In theory, she likes his decisiveness, but in reality she often has a hard time letting him be the leader.

And the alpha man might love her mind but will quickly tire of competing with her for the leadership role.

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Luckily, my mom was a little sceptical about all of this too (though I think she was surprised by the loud screechy-ness of my reaction). She said she kept falling asleep - ha! But the kicker was that the seminar was essentially a sales pitch for a great discount - just $200 (TWO HUNDRED DAMN DOLLARS) for her "Find a Quality Man Home Study System" which normally costs $599. Yep, in addition to changing your appearance to look more feminine and changing your personality to be more appealing, you get the opportunity to spend a ridiculous amount of money on this gross "dating coach" advice in order to attract a "Quality Man".

I know we've talked about this kind of thing a lot around here, but somehow this one is just really pissing me off. I think it's partly because it doesn't seem enough for Lisa to treat women as commodities - we get to treat men like commodities too ("Quality Men" vs "Male Losers")! And we have to dress pretty and act ladylike while we do it! It's the same old "change yourself to find a man" nonsense but with a new market to exploit.

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Ugh, I'm done.