[Photo of Little Bird to help me calm my shit down]

Hey chums, I haven't been around much for the last couple of weeks because of visiting family in glorious New England. Part of the trip involved a job interview by Skype for a position in the general area (like fivehours drive, which normally I would have driven that distance for an in-person but I found out the day we left on vacation), and yay they want me to do a second interview!

However there is also non-yay. At the first interview, when they asked if I would be available to do a second interview in person if they liked me, they said it in such a way (I can't remember the exact phrasing) that implied it would be in the next few days, when I was still within a few hour's driving distance. However, I didn't hear back from them before vacation was up and I headed back to Georgia. So I'm looking at flights, but not only are they for the most part more than I can afford, but the one that is affordable (but would still be major ouch for the budget) doesn't work with the interview time in their letter.

Travelling to an in-person interview - or at least, having difficulty doing so - isn't something that has come up for me before, so I'm not sure on the business etiquette here. So here are my questions, O Knowing-Stuff Types:

1) Can I say "I would really super-duper love to come for an interview but I cannot afford the travel [even though I said I would be available for an in-person interview]" and request another Skype interview?

2) Can I say "I would really super-duper love to come for an interview but the only flight I can get [leave out affordability as a factor?] does not work with the interview time, can we move the time to earlier in the day?"

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3) If neither of those is acceptable, what is the best way to say "I'm sorry but I just can't" to a prospective employer?

4) If #2 IS acceptable, I know that travel/moving expenses for a new job can be claimed on tax returns. But what if you don't get the job?

5) If #1 IS acceptable, any tips for Skype interviews? Since they would be doing me a massive favor I would want to be as awesome as possible both in my presentation and making it easy/enjoyable/helpful for them.

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6) If I DO get the job, OMG MOVING A HOUSE A HUSBAND A KID A CAT AND ALL OF HUSBAND'S KNICKKNACKS THREE DAYS' DRIVE AWAY TO A CITY WHERE I DON'T KNOW ANYONE HOW DO I FIND A PLACE TO LIVE HOW DO I FIND A SCHOOL HOW DO I ADULT AAAAAAAAHHHH. Trying not to lose my shit about this currently-hypothetical situation.

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