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Long distance relationships & roommates...aka why 2015 scares me

Hey guys! I know I haven't been around much lately and I miss GT a lot. I've been meaning to write this post for awhile, but I haven't...mostly because I'm lazy.

So, first up. Big news. Mr. Peachy is moving to the UK in April or May for work. The details still aren't hammered out, but he'll be there for 6 months asa business trip and then will have the opportunity to transfer to the company there if he decides that is what he wants to do. If so, he says he wouldn't want to live there for more than 2 years total, but it's hard to say if that will happen until he actually gets over there.

Meanwhile, I am currently applying to internships that I need for the professional credential I have been working towards for the past 4 years. This will require me to move somewhere in the US for 6-12 months (depending on which one I am accepted to...if I am accepted to any). We have known this was coming for a long time and knew it was a possibility that we would live apart during my internship, so the whole moving abroad opportunity kind of came at a good time.


It's been really weird for me to think about the upcoming year since I literally have no idea where I will be. I won't find out about my internships until mid-April and Mr. Peachy will be leaving shortly after that (if not before). I will either be accepted to an internship and move somewhere in the US, not be accepted and move with Mr. Peachy, or not be accepted and stay here to do things to strengthen my internship application for next year. Obviously the first scenario is what I am hoping for, but either way, there is a good chance Mr. Peachy and I will be living in different countries for at least half a year (if not more).

I go back and forth on being excited and terrified. No matter what, I will hopefully be with him over the summer and it will be really fun to experience another country as well as be able to travel around Europe a bit (I've never been there before!). To be honest, I also think it will be nice to be apart during my internship (if I get one) because I will be SUPER busy and stressed and working a lot and it will be nice to just be focused on that and have as few distractions as possible (this is my own fault, but I am incredibly bad at getting any work done when Mr. Peachy is home because I just want to hang out with him).

Then again, living in separate countries also sounds terrifying. Before this came up, I was fine with the idea of us living in separate places during my internship, but it is one thing to fly across the country for the weekend to visit...it's not really feasible to fly across the planet to do that. We've never been really big on talking on the phone and I just feel like our relationship works best in person (not that we've ever tested that...so I guess I have no idea).

On top of all this, a friend of mine is moving in with us. We own a duplex and rent out the other side, so her rent combined with renting out the other until will cover the mortgage, which will be really helpful. We really didn't want to move out of our unit and rent out the whole thing just to potentially move it all back in a year later. We had a mutual friend live with us for 2 years after his divorce and while it was slightly annoying at times, it worked out pretty well. She will have her own room and bathroom in the basement, which is fairly separate from our space upstairs. However, the friend that lived with us before almost never came upstairs. He had his own microwave and mini fridge and basically lived off peanut butter sandwiches. So having her here will be different because I know she wont' be sequestering herself in the basement like he did. I think it will be kind of nice to have someone around after Mr. Peachy leaves, but she is moving in at the end of February, so there will be some overlap and I'm not really looking forward to that period of time. I am really grateful that it worked out to have someone we know move in and kind of watch over things while we are both gone though. It will just be hard to transition from living alone and not having to wear pants to going back to having to wear pants all the time (when our old friend moved out, I was really psyched about having no-pants time back).


Anyway, that is what is going on with me! If you have any advice about long distance marriages or living with a roommate when you are married/living with your SO, I'd love to hear it!

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