My daughter had a really shitty day at school yesterday. A good part of it she shared with her father and me, and that was all incompetent/idiotic teachers. e.g. A creepy male teacher who 1) doesn't bother to learn the kids' names (especially the girls) and 2) tried to tell her that if her parents paid her $10 an hour to baby sit her little brother, and she didn't report it to the IRS, she could be fined and her credit ruined, and 3) told her there was no way she could know what the sales tax rates are on groceries and non-food items in our state (believe me...she knows...because she's helped add grocery costs in the store for years now because we're always down to the penny). But that's not the worst of it.
The worst she only shared with me, though, gulping through sobs and tears. One of her alleged best friends called her fat yesterday. When she told her that it hurt her feelings, the friend's response was "No, it didn't!" Then the girl did it again later on. Guys, my daughter is 5'2" and wears girls size 16 or misses size 4. Her BMI (which I put no stock in, but it's still touted as the end-all-be-all in her PE and health classes) is in the "normal" range. But she feels like she looks fat.
I've tried to tell her that she doesn't look fat, but so many of her "friends" are still gangly and so very thin...some because they just haven't blossomed yet, and some because their mothers strictly control every morsel they put in their mouths (it's awful and heartbreaking). And all she wants is to look like everyone else. She thinks that the reason I tell her she's beautiful and not overweight is because I'm her mom. When I was her age, I weighed nearly 200 pounds and could only wear women's size XL. My mom took me to Lane Bryant to shop for school clothes. I am still very much plus-sized. I know what it's like to be the "fat kid" and she is not remotely near that. I'm so worried about her.
We talked about making healthy food choices, portion control, and exercise, but I don't know what else to do. I did get her to agree that if this "friend" says anything else, we will go to the school counselor about the situation. I'm just so angry about the entire situation.