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For the first time!

In a month’s time, my partner is bringing me home to see his parents (father and step-mother). And as we are spending time at the family’s summer home, I could be meeting a rotating cast of relatives too.

I am very excited, but also horribly terrified because:

1/ I just realised that this will be the first time any man has brought me home to his parents (this is my second serious, long-term relationship);

2/ I am brown, born-Muslim (I still identify as Muslim although not practicing) and my partner’s family are largely white (I believe a cousin is married to an American-Chinese) and religious (Protestant). But I do know that my partner’s father is a very smart, former teacher who was (is?) a hippie from VT, so my partner’s assured me that his dad is pretty open-minded;

3/ the step-mother has a serious case of foot-in-mouth disease, basically shooting off her mouth and then regretting it later when everyone else calls her out on it.

Case in point: when my partner’s younger brother got engaged to his then-fiancee after a bad divorce, step-mother told the person that she will have to return the engagement ring if they get divorced, because it’s a family heirloom. This caused the person to cry in the family’s kitchen.


I fear that the brother’s bad divorce might get the family protective of my partner, and might use this as an interrogation session. He’s never brought anyone home so it’s a big deal to them that he might finally be getting married.

Looking at all of that, any survival tips, GT? If you’ve read any of my posts, you know I’m a worrywart. How do I keep myself nice and calm throughout the trip? Also, should I spend some alone time with the step-mother?

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