I just had a conversation with my big cousin (43) and younger cousin (14) and to be real y’all. Whatever happen to these motherfuckas they deserve.

14yr old: I am seeing 5 different girls and it’s hard.

Me: so do they know about each other?

14 old: uh no duh

me: so you see why that’s wrong right? You’re lying to them. That’s disrespectful. How would you like it if a girl did that to you?

14yr old: Well, that’s the way it’s gotta be.

43 yr old: Martha why are you bothering the boy. He’s doing what he’s supposed to be doing.


Me: lying and gaslighting 14yr old girls who are already sent a bunch of horrible messgaes about themselves is not what he’s supposed to be doing.

43yr old: Men are going to be men and you have let them do what they are going to do


*devolves into a horrible no good conversation about sexism and black women and I get mainsplained to*

So what I’m saying is.