So many times in my life, I've sensed that a man I'm talking to is processing everything I'm saying through a kind of filter. And apparently, I haven't been imagining things. Being aware that your perspective is being discounted without justification is frustrating—infuriating even—in such a way that, for men who believe that women are shrill over-reacters, I suspect that attitude becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy when the women they're talking to sense that they're being disbelieved and get upset by that. ("Women! They get upset over nothing!") It's like our culture conditions everyone to engage in low-grade gaslighting with women as standard practice. Assuming that women are overreacting until proven otherwise.
What do you guys think? Have you ever had that distinct sense that a dude wasn't disbelieving you, exactly, but working under the automatic assumption that your reaction wasn't really, fully justified?