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Mind your business: A thesis on why Black men feel the need to offer unsolicited advice

The other day, a FB friend posted a picture of a woman wearing what can best be described as lace tights during the NY snow storm. He added a caption saying that she should be wearing something more appropriate. I commented on the picture, asking him if he took a stranger’s picture with the sole purpose of mocking her on social media. He said yes, and? Like, he didn’t see anything wrong with this. I should add that the man in question is quite fat. Not that there is anything wrong with being overweight (I’m chubby). However, his weight opens him up to ridicule, and I doubt he would be happy with someone taking his picture just to mock him on social media. And he still sees nothing wrong with his behavior.

And just now, a guy told me I should stay out of the conversation when I commented on an article calling Tyrese out for throwing black women under the bus, again. I called him a dick and stopped receiving notifications for the post.


I have noticed a disturbing trend of black men on my FB feed offering unsolicited advice that is usually directed towards black women. Like the guy who said he wouldn’t date any women who’s parent’s were divorced. He has a son and is not with the mother. Or my brother who mocked women who still lived at home with their kids. He rents a room in a boarding house.

I think that these men feel powerless. They may not be able to articulate it explicitly, but I suspect they use social media to inflate their own sense of self worth. But what I don’t understand is how they fail to see the irony of someone who barely has their shit together telling others to get their shit together. Like, mind your business and concentrate on your shit. Don’t worry about mine.

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