Hey there, so is basically asking for advice, because I don't know what to do to help my big brother.
He's staying out in Washington, although I'm not sure where since I think he just left his wife. His phone is off, so FB is the only way to reach him. He posted a status update about being depressed and leaving her and his 2 daughters, saying he was depressed. At that point, I messaged him a few times, told him to come stay with me Indiana, that I could host him and maybe help with his bus ticket, that I'd love his company, that any way I can help I will. Then today he posts another one about how his ex-wife in California is taking away his rights to see his 3 sons, and how he's having thoughts of suicide. He's made attempts before, but he's also stubbornly resistant to dying. He's been hurt so many ways by people, institutions, lovers, etc., and I've always known him to recover. I've never seen anything like this before. Besides messaging him and making myself available in every way, what else can I do to help? He's kind of making sense when we talk, but also being a little incoherent and self-referential. He's diagnosed bi-polar. What's the standard procedure in a cry for help situation like this where I can't actually call? I'm FREAKIN' OUT!!
UPDATE: in contact with his sister and bout to reach out to his mom if I don't hear anything from her, reading helpful stuff. I'm gonna be in class for a few hours, but then I'll come back here and see more/read more/talk to more people. I don't know any of his friends up in Washington, but obviously we know lots of people from Oakland. Gotta think about who to reach out to. Sis seemed natural, other family, I don't wanna overreach and freak him out more. Family is a tough thing for us, lotsa love lotsa damage.