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My friend told me today she's getting married in two months

I have a friend of mine, let's call her Rachel. She's super high maintenance and loves to go over the top with everything. She's a super sweet, super wonderful girl but every event she plans is an out and out fiasco. She got engaged in March to a great guy and she just texted me today that the wedding is in November. THIS November. Whaaaat?

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So Rachel texts me and my other friend, lets call her Laura, and says she's finalizing a date for the wedding. I'm still kind of hoping I'm not involved in the bridal party because Rachel's other friends are the most Real Housewives of NJ type of women you've ever met in your life. She's known them all since pre-school and their relationships seem to be nothing but fighting, screaming, back-stabbing and grudges. I lived with Rachel and Laura in college and we've stayed close. Neither myself or Laura really get along with her other friends and they don't make much of an effort to get to know us. Laura and I are always wildflowers at any event Rachel throws. Her birthday parties have been giant disasters. She had a dinner once and the bill was over a thousand dollars because her friends kept ordering food and drinks then leaving without paying. She had a birthday brunch once where a bunch of her friends got drunk and left without paying. She's rented out clubs for 50 of her friends could come and basically fight with each other. You get the idea...

Anyway, Rachel just recently canceled her engagement party because it was horrifically over budget (she said it was costing as much as a wedding at that point) and she and her finance were focused on saving money. A week after that they spent two weeks in Costa Rica. Okay then... Suddenly, today, we hear the wedding isn't happening next year but in TWO MONTHS. Am I wrong in thinking that is entirely insane?

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She has no wedding dress, no bridal party, no caterer or cake or flowers or ANYTHING. Now, suddenly, she's going to be putting on a, and a quote, "HUGE WEDDING!!!" for 250 people in two months. The wedding itself is going to be on a Friday, which is an odd day for a wedding. She's asking 250 people to take off work with only two months of notice. I barely have any vacation days left at work and I can't afford this right now.

Since Rachel likes to be over the top she's talking about a destination bachelorette party, a "lavish" bridal party she's throwing for herself. Her birthday party is usually a fiasco of epic proportions and now her wedding is twelve times worse. I'm sorry, you can't announce you're getting married in two months and expect people to be okay with this. She's not even doing "save the date" cards, just invitations which will go out "in a few weeks". I can't even. I can't.

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Laura is a school teacher and doesn't have personal days. She can not take that Friday off so she's hoping the wedding is at night. We're both fearful of being in the bridal party (which hasn't even been announced yet!) because it's sounds impossible to get a bridesmaids dress ordered and altered in less than two months. Rachel loves expensive clothes so I'm dreading how much a dress and shoes would cost.

I feel bad for being upset but you can't expect me to be able to drop everything for a wedding. I live in an entirely different state and I haven't even begun to budget for wedding presents, clothes, etc. I can't imagine any of her 250 guests are going to be pleased when they realize they have two months to scramble to request time off work, purchase a gift, find a hotel, buy a dress or suit, etc. It's madness.

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I know people bitch about other people's weddings and stuff like they're major sports events but I just can't get over this. Why this November? What's the rush? At first she talked about a long engagement with the wedding possibly being in 2015! Now it's in TWO MONTHS. You can seriously not plan a gala wedding event for 250 people, starting today, in two months. There's no way.

Oh my god, I just can't even. I can't. My brain. Oh god. TWO MONTHS.

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