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My mom thinks I'm an old maid (advice needed)

I posted this on mainpage Saturday Night Social but didn't get too much response because I posted so late, so I'm reposting it here because I seriously need advice. Thanks, guys!

Apparently my mom decided that with my semi-old birthday I'll be having in less than 4 months, I am now an Old Maid. She has never expressed concern about my single status but she did yesterday. It was in the context of a pretty serious conversation I was having regarding looking for a support group to help me deal with my dad and brother, both who are bipolar. As soon as I finished telling her about how I was trying to find one to fit my schedule she said, "and in the new year, you really need to join a church singles group, because that's a good way to meet quality guys." Here's the thing: I am A) not Christian, and she knows this, B) more concerned with my own well-being than in finding a man, any man, right now. I am open to finding someone but am not willing to compromise just in order to find a partner. Here was my face when she said this:


A few minutes later I mentioned a town that I was considering moving to, and she said, "Oh, that's nice. You can find yourself a nice Jewish boy." Again, I'm not desperate. But she seems to think so.

I can appreciate that this is coming from a place of concern, because I have always wanted kids, and I'm definitely not getting any younger. However, like I said, I'm picky (in ways that matter, not in stuff like height or hair color) and I'm ok with that. I'd rather be too picky and end up alone than end up with an emotional abuser, alcoholic, or cheater. It's not like I'm not trying, either. I'm open to finding The Right Guy but I don't go out very often (I live in a rural area with not a lot of guys with the right attitude, political beliefs, etc.) and I am on OKCupid, but it seems a little pointless. So here are my questions: how do I tell my mom to respectfully fuck off and quit worrying about my ovaries? Also: where does a lady in her 30s go to find available who are feminists, politically left and respectful? Am I searching for a needle in the proverbial haystack? I mean, I think the answer is yes, but I thought I'd ask anyway.

TL;DR- My mom thinks I'm an old maid and I need to get her off my back while simultaneously finding a good guy.

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