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This is private and on Facebook, so I feel like it's okay to post this, since no one will ever be able to find her because of it and she doesn't know I post on here. But guys, I need to vent. I'm really angry and sad about this post. Here it is:

"Lately, especially given my current crazy circumstances, I’ve given much thought to the idea of what should we as Christians look like when we’re tired? It may sound like a silly question, but the grave reality is that much of life is exhausting. We often find ourselves in the place of very little sleep (or at least I do!), due to various circumstances. Sometimes it’s out of my control, and sometimes it’s not totally out of my hands, but for one reason or another, I feel it necessary to allow the circumstances to come before my sleep – whether it’s an important conversation, a task that needs doing, or something similar.

So, what should our attitude be when we’re in a place of exhaustion? There’s a part of us, in our humanness and frailty, which literally can’t help the mental cloudiness and physical exhaustion that we succumb to. Yet I feel like there must be an aspect of this where we’re called to something higher – something supernatural. Should we pray earnestly for a positive attitude, strength, and the ability to show the Lord’s great love despite our less-than-ideal state of mind? Are we really allowed excuses? “the spirit is willing, but the flesh is weak” (Matthew 26:41b).


In a sense, this can be a form of suffering – physical exhaustion can be so great that it feels comparable to suffering physical abuse. what?! did she really just compare being tired to being abused??????? Yet, if the reason for the state that we’re in is worthwhile (not just staying up watching worthless movies, playing video games, or engaging in some other chosen time-waster), oh my god she sounds like my dad should we not praise Him all the more, and be a shining testimony to His greatness, despite our circumstances? ugh this makes me want to vomit

We sell ourselves short. If there is any half-way reasonable rational for our poor behavior and testimony, we will take it and spiritualize it, cutting ourselves slack and saying, “God understands!” How much greater a testimony could we be if we instead prayed for joy, strength, and a right heart, despite everything else! right! we sell ourselves short by being tired, guyz! she could be Sue Sylvester from Glee!

The same is true with other difficult situations (not just tiredness). If we had a rough childhood, a relationship turned sour, or a rotten job situation, we cut ourselves extreme slack. No wonder the church is doing a poor job! oh my god. I want to scream at her. No, the church is "doing a poor job" because you are all a bunch of JUDGMENTAL PRICKS. Everyone has some difficult situations! Shouldn’t we instead support one another and “let us consider how to stimulate one another to love and good deeds” (Hebrews 10:24)?

“Consider it all joy, my brethren, when you encounter various trials, knowing that the testing of your faith produces endurance. And let endurance have its perfect result, so that you may be perfect and complete, lacking in nothing” (James 1:2-3). *puke*


We need to stop waiting for life to get better before we live our Christianity. We need to stop waiting until our tough marriage dissolves, we get a better job, or we get more sleep. We need to stop putting on hold the calling of serving the Lord with all that we do.

This is as much of an exhortation to myself – if not more so – as it is to others. It’s been on my mind and heart often, and it took a completely sleepless night of traveling across the country and dealing with flight complications, nearly missing a flight, and my luggage not arriving when I did to cause me to think all this over and compose detailed thoughts. she is seriously comparing lost luggage to my mom's 26-year abusive marriage. Is she for real right now????


I believe the Word of God when it says, “His divine power has granted to us everything pertaining to life and godliness, though the true knowledge of Him who called us by His own glory and excellence” (2 Peter 1:3). Amen!"

end crazy.

When I initially skimmed this I was sad - wow, she thinks she needs to not sleep to be a good Christian. But now I am FURIOUS. This is a full-blown denouncement of my mother. How can she be this insensitive? I couldn't help but respond. I managed to tone down my fury and talk to her using her own stated belief system, which is not my own, but god it was hard. ughhhhhhh I am so angry now. Sad, too, but really angry.


This is what I said in response:

First of all, even God rested. So it’s not “in our humanness and frailty” to be tired. You say “we sell ourselves short” and “we cut ourselves slack,” but Jesus said, “Come to me all you who are weary and heavy laden and I will give you rest.” God does understand, and I feel like what you’re saying here is dangerously close to legalism. Remember that Jesus himself rejected legalism constantly.


Secondly, exhaustion cannot ever be compared to abuse, physical or otherwise. Abuse is humiliating and terrifying. It’s knowing you are worthless and you don’t matter to someone who claims to love you. It’s knowing they will hurt you without a second thought.

I’m sorry if this message offends you. Feel free to delete it if it does. I just feel very worried and sad that you feel like part of your spiritual duty is to deny yourself things that people need to live, such as rest, and you would feel as though that is something others should do too.

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