I've worked with special needs and mental illness communities my whole life and I absolutely hate how people can be so weird, rude, and insensitive. I am sad that I've heard comments from "well-meaning" people who say "Why didn't she have an abortion" and "How noble for her to chose life". Sometimes people feel alright saying garbage like this in front of the children they're speaking of - as if they aren't also human beings worthy of respect and basic decency. I feel like women who have children with special needs face a disproportionate amount of intrusive questions about their health, what's up with their children, and future reproductive plans. Please be kind, humanity.