So I have a short phone call scheduled today with a potential new therapist, I figured it's time to get some help coping with divorcing myself entirely from my insane, boundary defying, mother. But I don't really know how to do this. How do I therapy?
I went to a counselor once a few years back and I hated it. I felt like I couldn't clearly explain things in a way that would make sense to someone who wasn't a first generation American. And when I wanted to talk about other things, she would always drive the conversation back to my mom even if it wasn't something I brought up even tangentially. And I felt like I was talking to someone who dealt more with children, so it was pretty patronizing. Basically, it felt like it didn't help at all and I was better off talking to friends.
So how do I go back to someone new without hanging this negative bias over it? I'm highly emotional and I have a hard time dealing with being talked down to.