This is not as entertaining as my last OKC updates. It's barely even an OKC update, to be honest, because I've barely been on the site/app at all this week. Still: An eventful week. If you missed them, here are part 1 and part 2.

Date #4: The Follow-Up

At the end of Date #4 on Sunday, I gave xyzmusic my number because I thought maybe I'd go on another date with him. He texted to set something up, but with the help of some advice from a raptor, I decided that he was nice but that I didn't really expect anything from a second date and that it wasn't worth my time or his. I haven't heard from him since I told him I'd changed my mind about a second date, so I guess that's that.


Date #3, Part 2: Like Whoa

Remember Sam from Date #3? I spent the next several days thinking about him and wondering if he'd want to see me again. I actually listened to a podcast he'd recommended so that I would have an excuse to text him. He finally texted on Tuesday evening and we made plans for Saturday. (The three-day rule is a stupid rule.)

We spent basically all day together yesterday. We met up around 11:30, had lunch, and walked around a museum. He kissed me in a very lovely rotunda. We wandered around the city a bit, and then we went out to pick up his car from the suburbs (he'd had to get repairs done and just metro-ed back in) and then got dinner before he dropped me off at a party around 10.

I… really like him. I like that he's open about his life—his weird religious background, his verbally-abusive ex, his anxiety (as well as the good things about his life)—and that he makes me want to be open about mine. (As I said last week, I can't remember the last time I voluntarily just talked to someone for that long.) He's incredibly kind and very smart and we have interesting conversations and he's a great kisser.


When we were sitting in his car, he looked at our clasped hands and said, "I think this might be a thing." And I said, "I like this thing." And then a few hours later he texted me saying he'd deactivated his OKC account, and I… don't know what to do with that.

This is scary and weird, GT. He obviously wants this to go somewhere. I would really like this to go somewhere. I've been thinking about this guy all week and he gives me butterflies (and pantsfeels). I've also only known him a week, and I haven't been in a relationship in almost three and a half years. (Which he knows.) With the exception of one awkward cabbage-flavored make-out session at a club a few months back, I haven't even kissed anyone in that time.


I joined OKC with the goal of more than just casual dating. I did not expect to have my third OKC date be with someone who is so totally into me, nor did I expect to like him back, and I'm not sure I was mentally prepared for that. I don't know if I should just jump in and let this happen or if I should try to slow it down or what. Scratch "should"—I don't know what I want to do.

I'm not sure I'm looking for advice or gifs or if I just wanted to write this out. I've barely been on OKC this week (as previously noted, I was a bit distracted) and thus haven't gotten many messages, so unfortunately we don't get to mock any of the terrible ones as in weeks past.