I'm looking for conversation cause I don't think I have answers.
My own opinion and how I decide if I should include my personal narrative. First it has o pass the "does this add anything to the conversation or an I just telling a story to tell a story?"
If you have to start with "What about" and you bring up your personal background that has nothing to do with the current topic it is derailing. Ie plus size model discussion but let's talk about how hard it is to find petite clothing.
A narrative about your lived experience but being told from another view point. Ie this guy is saying he use to be racist but his narrative has problems for a POC and POC replies saying so.
I hope I explained this well because I do think this is an important distinction.
And sorry for the vague examples. I didn't want to link to real ones and this to be confused with a call out.