So I'm trying to get back into shape, and am taking a few dance/aerobics classes as well as having rejoined the gym (and I swallow so much bile every time I acknowledge that hated, hated place).

There's a problem coming up again, and it's come up before, which is that I kinda fail at ab exercises. I can barely do a crunch without wanting to cry; I've never understood how it isn't just a miserable experience for absolutely everyone. Granted I've never really stuck with a routine for long enough, but when I've tried it just never seems to get better. I'm convinced I'm doing things wrong.

The worst is planking. My dance teacher dedicates half of our class to stuff on floor mats and starts it out with a plank exercise, and I've never, EVER been able to plank. All the weight and strain ends up on my upper back and shoulders, never my abs. I know I'm doing it wrong and it frustrates the living daylights out of me. Also it's painful.

I'm going to speak to a trainer at the gym to see if one of them can help me figure out what the hell I'm doing wrong, because I'd really like to be able to do this without holding back tears. But does anyone else here fail at ab exercises, or did and then got better?

ETA: thank you guys. It's so good to know I'm not the only one! I look around my class (of mostly ladies in their 40s or more) and wonder how the hell I'm having so much trouble, but y'all are really encouraging. My office is moving tomorrow to a location that's literally two blocks from my gym, and I have a nice Plus membership with towel service and whatnot specifically so it'll be easy to go to the gym at lunch(ish), do some exercise, shower, and come back. I want to start with going at least once per week, and then work up from there.