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Update: I’m going to call the folks that “such a travesty” recommended tomorrow morning. I’ve gotten my account of everything that has happened written up, and I am aiming to speak with the property manager/higher ups tomorrow afternoon once I have the benefit of those conversations that “such a travesty” recommended. Thank you everyone for your kind words, encouragement, and support! I feel like I can go to sleep tonight. I’ll make sure to update again once I have more action items done and some idea of what will happen after that.

Sooooo my apartment maintenance guy is creepy hitting on me :( I locked myself out earlier and had to call the emergency maintenance line to get someone to come unlock the door. I’ve talked to him a couple of times before and he has made somewhat risqué comments, but things that could be easily passed off as just joking. When it happened, I thought he might be hitting on me but saw his wedding ring and gave him the benefit of the doubt thinking he might just be socially awkward. Turns out he is just disgusting.

I just got a call from him...not thinking beyond that it must be maintenance related I picked up and he was just like “guess what I’m doing...” I was like “um. I don’t know, maintenance stuff—a lockout?”


He said yeah, then tried to talk to me about what I was doing, if my dogs were cuddling with me, what time I was going to work tomorrow, etc. I was kind of shocked that this was happening, so I was just responding in 1-2 word increments.

Then he said “so yeah, I’m going to be at the apartments in like 15 minutes if you want me to stop by”. To which awkward shocked me said “oh....no thank you”. It was so weird and then it was silent for a minute and he said “well, I’ll be there for a few minutes so just let me know if you change your mind”.

I’m trying to stay cool, but I’m freaking out. I’m a sexual assault survivor and grew up in domestic violence and my PTSD and anxiety are really fucked up right now. This guy saved my number, knows exactly where I live, and has access to keys to my apartment. I’m going to call the office tomorrow and ask if he returned the key copy he had of my apartment, but I’m not sure whether or not I should report him.

A part of me is hesitant to report him because if they just slap him on he wrist he could get really angry. You never know how someone might react, you know? Or if they fire him and he loses his freaking mind, he knows exactly where I live and he knows I take my dogs to the dog relief area that is publicly accessible. Also, I know he has kids because they were with him today so now I am feeling extra guilty about me maybe getting him fired even though logically I know he is the one who is responsible for his actions.


I’ve got my alarm and my chain lock on, plus I’m going to barricade the door tonight. But I still have to take the dogs outside for the night and I’m so on edge. I should tell the property manager tomorrow, right? I’m not sure how I’m going to sleep in my own apartment if I don’t. I hate everything about this.

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