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Everyone has them. Secret dreams you think are too ridiculous to tell anyone, things you think you could never do but really want to try anyway.

My secret dream? I want to learn to ride a motorcycle.

SleepyGene has been riding motorcycles for years. This Sunday, I went on my first ride with him. It was my first time on a bike (and SleepyGene’s first time with a passenger) and although there was a bit of a learning curve for both of us at the beginning, we had a great time.


But...maybe this is the incorrigible feminist in me, but as much fun as I had, I felt like it would be more fun if I could drive my own bike. I don’t actually want to be the passive girlfriend who just rides on the back of her boyfriend’s bike. I’ve been interested in learning to ride for a while now, but this was the first time I thought, yeah, I could actually do this.

Riding a motorcycle isn’t something you do on a whim. It’s dangerous, but it also requires a major investment of time and money. Just getting the proper gear (helmet, leathers, boots) can run you at least a thousand. Then there’s the bike, of course. And lessons and the money it costs to get licensed. I confessed to SleepyGene over beers after the ride that I want to learn how to ride myself, and to my pleasant surprise, he didn’t laugh in my face. He said I should do it if I really want to.

It seems like such a bonkers idea to me, but then I thought, why shouldn’t I do this? Yeah, it’s dangerous, but so are a lot of things. I don’t want to be the person who always plays it safe and never gets to have the experiences she wants to have. So dammit, I can learn to ride a motorcycle at 31! Why the hell not?

So, Groupthink, what are your ridiculous secret dreams - things you don’t give yourself permission to admit you want to do? If you could do anything, without worrying about failure or humiliation or judgment, what would it be?

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