About a year ago a friend I had as a child died. In grade school I knew something was off about him. My mother and grandmother always told me to agree with what he said withen reason. He was a daredevil and idolized Evel Knievel well in the 70s it seemed all kids idolized him. My grandmother stopped more then one stunt he wanted to do in our backyard.
I lost track of him in high school my mother would talk to his mother in stores when they bumped into each other. He got violent during his teen years and spent many decades in and out of institutions he did during one long period out got married and had a child.
Well he did have a younger sibling by about 2 years. I realize life could not have been easy growing up with a brother prone to violence and mental illness.
The mother recently died. I read her obit. Her late husband by name was listed, her youngest child and spouse along with the names of their kids, the late brother’s exwife was listed as a daughter in law (my understanding the ex and his mother were close), along with the name of their child.
The name missing was the late brother. Because of the specific details in the obituary my mother and I think the younger sibling wrote the details.
I realize life could not have been easy and may very well have been a victim of the brother. It was still his mother’s obituary. The omission could have been a mistake. I thought maybe the mother did not want his name listed but my mother shot down that theory saying she always spoke in loving terms about him always.saying how was trying and that he was a good father.
An obituary is still a public record and to me its like saying he no longer exists or ever existed. I wonder how common this is for people to omit names of ones child or relative in an obit due to the person having mental illness.
To me this in a way erases his existance.