This is pretty inane, but sometimes I find myself realizing how ill-prepared I really was for adulthood. I credit that to my Brazilian upbringing, as typically people didn't leave their parent's homes until marriage or children of their own(in the middle class or aboveā€”among lower-income/rural families, it was common for children to leave in their teens to find work in the city) . This trend seems to be slowly shifting, but I still have friends in Brazil today (ages 25+) who still live with their parents. Anyway, that's a topic I can explore in a different post. I feel that since my parents waited a while to leave the home, they weren't really ready for me to leave at age 17, so I've always had skills and habits that I had to learn as an adult. I'll list some of the skills I've had to self-teach in adulthood.

1) Cooking. I am now very comfortable with cooking, but that is a recent occurrence for me. Last Christmas, I cooked several dishes for my family, and everyone made lots of comments. They were baffled by the idea that I had learned to cook from following food blogs. My mom was never a great cook, so I didn't learn much from her.

2) Styling my own hair. I am pretty embarrassed at how hopeless I am at this, still. I can put my hair in a ponytail and a bun, that is it. I can barely straighten it, cannot curl it or braid it, and don't get me started on trendy styles from Pinterest.

3) Keeping the house clean/organized. I suck at cleaning. Well, not cleaning exactly, but I have never developed a habit of cleaning or tidying regularly. I am working on it (Unfuck Your Habitat is awesome!), but it's not happening anytime soon.

4) Anything related to car maintenance. This is super embarrassing. I never owned a car until less than 2 years ago, so I never really learned how to take care of one. If anything ever goes wrong with my car, it is going to the shop.

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Has anyone had similar experiences? Add your own!