Ugggggh YOU GUYS. This is the stupidest thing in the world and it happened almost literally in my backyard. The restaurant in question is right down the road from where I live.
My area of NJ isn't exactly a magical tolerance wonderland (it does trend toward the opposite) but you'd think people wouldn't suck out loud like this. I hope this wasn't anyone I know because if it was... hoooooo boy.
According to the article, the mom of the family in question took a look at the server and assumed she was "Dan" and not "Dayna."
As a lady who tends to present more butch than your average straight woman, I have come across this many, many, MANY times myself. I have been called "sir" more times than I can remember. It's weird, the assumptions we make based on what people look like. But I have never had anyone be shitty to me (to my face, anyway) because I look more like a Patricia than a Patrick. That's just absurd.
I've been avoiding this restaurant because it used to be a gross Indian joint then a gross IHOP and then it was a gross no-name pancake joint and then it was empty for awhile so I'm a'skeered of what might be happening in those back rooms, but now I might go and seek out this Dayna and give her a gigantic tip. Because damn. People are terrible.