I'm on an email list with a bunch of women and men that are friends of mine - about 30 of us. One of the men on the list made a seriously dumb and sexist comment. I immediately fired back with "this is why you are wrong and that comment is sexist."

At first, I get a bunch of private replies, basically saying, "You go girl!" and the man who made the sexist comment immediate capitulated and said he was wrong.

However, now, another man who is a friend of the both us sent me a private email that chastised me for scolding the first guy publicly and said that I should have emailed him privately, rather than calling him out on the list.

I'm not sure how I feel about that. What do you all think?