I never had a problem speaking up for another person or a group I am part of, but in my relationships I am the worst. As soon as something happens or is said that is upsetting or hurtful my immediate reaction is to put it on myself and come up with an excuse for the other person in my own mind so there is no conflict. And then I reach a point where things need to be discussed and I don't know where or how to start because neither of us know how to talk to each other. And it's scary. But I need to get over it, and I think I'm finally getting there.

Anyone else have experience with this?