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TW pregnancy/fertility/miscarriage issues. Also, for the love of dogs, don't mainpage.

If I put up a ridiculously cute picture of my dogs, will y'all help me figure out what's going on with my body by reading my massive post?


There, now that that's out of the way. My husband and I have been trying to get pregnant for awhile now. So far, nothing at all has happened except for massive frustration. At my last gyno appointment the doctor casually announced that I had had a miscarriage sometime in the last year. (Who casually announces something like that with no warning?) It shook us up a bit because we had no idea we were ever pregnant—we definitely were not trying then.

Now we *are* trying, and so far it's a no-go, so we finally bought an ovulation detector kit. I've always, always had very regular periods. They last exactly 3.5 days and my cycle is 29-31 days long. I started testing on day 10 of my cycle just to make sure I didn't miss anything. It is now day 20. I've been using the kit exactly as instructed, but no hormone surge has been detected. According to what I've read it theoretically could happen today, but I'm beginning to become skeptical.

I am not trying to overreact to things, but I'm 1) confused and 2) frustrated and 3) irrationally worrying that my previous miscarriage and the case of the missing ovulation are linked somehow. To add to the frustration, my migraines have been getting worse the last few months. I've changed GPs and have seen a neurologist, and they don't want to put me on any prescriptions until after we've had a baby, since so few migraine medications are pregnancy-friendly. This is only adding a sense of urgency to get pregnant, because I'm really over having headaches every day of my life.

Is this even a thing? Am I somehow getting my period without ovulating? If I am ovulating but the hormone surge is too low to detect, what in the world does THAT mean?

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