Bittercoldtaylor just wrote an article about a woman who "Looks Down on Young Women with Husbands and Kids and is Not Sorry". Well being that I hate myself, I decided to look at other stuff she has written.
The first article I clicked on was her "explanation", "Is the Point of Having Kids Just to Not Be Lonely." I think you see where this is going.
The vast majority of the criticism is along the lines of "how dare you, you don't know what it means to be a mother, I work harder than you'll ever know." Of course being a mother is hard work. I don't think mothering is an easy task. However, is a task worthwhile just because it is difficult? I bet Sisyphus felt rolling that rock up the hill was a pretty difficult, 24/7 job, but that doesn't have anything to do with whether it's good or bad. "Hard" is value neutral.
As you can see mothers, raising a child is like rolling a rock up a hill. Also, name dropping Sisyphus is artsy. You mothers would know that if you had backpacked through Asia instead of rolling your kids up a hill.
Someone brought up Beyonce and how she is so successful with a child. Do I look down on her? Of course not, she is massively successful.
Something tells me you learned the hard way not to look down on Beyonce.
If a woman TRULY has no ambitions other to be a great mother and raise her kids, I was too harsh. But I don't think most women make this choice freely, so a little harshness might get the ball rolling.
You say you were too harsh but, it was needed. Is this your version of #sorroynotsorry? I'm just telling it like it is? You know how people view those phrases right?
I can't help but think of my own life and how easy it would have been to morph into that role and I chose to chase my dreams instead. This is my own experience, so I can't help but think there are lots of other women who felt compelled to fill that role whether or not that's what they really wanted. Not questioning their social role feels weak to me, and it's hard not to look down on someone you think is weak.
I literally do not know what this means.
The second reason is that so many of the responses talked about me being lonely. I don't get lonely because I love my life. I've worked through the childish "needing other people to make me happy" thing. My mother and sister can't be without their husbands for a day. One day. They don't have an identity outside of being a wife. So many comments echoed this, that I'll "die alone" while they will "never be alone" because they have kids. This sense of needing to not be alone, so much so that you surround yourself with family just to not be alone, I wonder what you are running away from. What is so bad about being alone with your thoughts?
I'm pretty sure that this whole "can't be without their husband" crap is just something you're seeing.
I am creating the world that I want, rather than filling it up with kids who love me so that I don't have to be alone. I'm not letting a man or a family create a life for me. I think this takes a lot of strength. There's no extraneous noise to fill the void, you have to work on yourself and find what makes you satisfied in your life. There is no distraction to keep you from knowing if there is something that isn't right in your life, and then fixing it.
I love how she spent two article saying women who chose to have a husband and/or kids fail at life, only to end it with "you have to find what makes you satisfied in life".
Fuckin Thought Catalog.