These are two couples my mother and I know via fleamarkets. Well she knows them more then I.
Couple A. We have known well the woman since the late 80s. She sold incense and books. By 95 she had a boyfriend. He came across as a total flake, think Shaggy from Scooby Doo. In 95 she took a massive stroke. Both early 40s. She spent months in a nursing home. He visited her near daily. Destroyed her voice by about 90 percent and mobility decimated. He fought with her to try to walk. She wanted the wheelchair only. 18 months she was on a walker. A year after that two canes, one on each hand, then one By year five. Voice sadly I never understood her, slurred and subwhisper. He stayed with her. Weil my mother saw him. He told her she died.
In a world of cheating. He stayed. He took her everywhere. Although looking back should he have fought with her to walk. Yes if she stayed in the wheel chair most likely she would have died years ago. It was still her body though.
Couple B no idea how long they have been together, far more then ten. They sell at a fleamnarket. She uses a walker due to ms. Very nice couple.
Both these tales. Men stayed. Couple A initially shocked me that he stayed and totally devoted twenty years to her care. He was such a flake yet his flakeness vanished after her stroke. I went from disdain for a flake to.admiration. Although now I wonder if he had a right to fight and push her to walk and go out.
I cannot but think of the Hitchcock saying that ordinary folk in extraordinary situations will act extraordinarIly.
I see it in my family and all around men leaving their marriages for their own good times.
Sometimes folk confuse me.