My mom came over to help me feel better since I’ve been unable to stop crying all day. We had tea and she tried to tell me to be optimistic but I just wasn’t feeling it and felt very pessimistic about the things she was talking about, like I didn’t have as much faith as she did that things will just get better.
Long story short she took it personally, ended up yelling at me (including a bit about how I’m doing nothing and helping no one by crying and getting angry on the couch), and stormed out. I don’t think that’s happened since I was a teenager. Mom has never been very good at letting me just feel my feelings. She wants to get me to feel the way she does to make me feel better, rather than just letting me feel.
No idea when this will blow over. Usually this kind of thing is followed by the silent treatment for a while. My husband is already in bed so I have no one else to talk to right now. Just needed to get it off my chest, I guess.
How’s your night going?
(ETA: mom is also a liberal. We are on the same side, but she just doesn’t know how to deal when her advice doesn’t make me feel better that instant, or I disagree.)