My mom and I often have very different views of how the real world is supposed to work. Like she thinks children should be sheltered from the real world...because you know, seeing them gays kiss will make them gay too! (That wasn’t a joke.)
Another thing we came to disagreement about is how we view others in the world around us. Following what her religion tells her, she thinks you are required to forgive everyone, regardless of what they have done to you...because you cannot move forward in life without it. She says I must forgive those who have done wrong to me.
Now this is where I had to raise my BS flag. Because after I tossed my ex-friends to the curb, I couldn’t be happier with my life. I feel like I lost a huge lead weight.
My view is that you do not need to forgive everyone. There are just some things that can’t be forgiven...like maliciously denying someone of their identity and beating their mental state until self harm sounds like a pretty good option. I can forget, I can be nice to these people if I bump into them in public, but forgive I will not.
However, I also don’t like to hate. I will never hate someone. I may dislike someone, but never hate, because I think hate is what really holds you back, not forgiveness. I feel love, passion, and dreams are what move my life forward. And hate is an anchor to the progress.
So no, I will not forgive them, because I don’t need to. I’m happier than I’ve ever been in so many years. But, I also won’t hate them, I just will not talk to them or associate myself to them.
However, I will continue to use this experience as a tool to show what trans people may go through after coming out.