Have you begun thinking that the spark in your marriage is going dim? And have you realized yet that it's all your fault because you're old and boring now? Well, if you haven't, then please, make sure you read "The Day I Realized I Was No Longer the Woman My Husband Wanted" so you can learn before it's too late!
The author of this article is the entrepreneur of the "Get your Girl Back" movement, designed to take you from a fully formed adult woman with grown up problems (ew!) to a fun and sexy girl who your husband may be inclined to love again. She apparently learned that this was the secret when she read the romantic letters that she had written to her husband before they were married. But now that she's older and no longer writing those letters? She's a bad wife!
I no longer made Dave feel wanted, let alone desirable; but more like a roommate or friend.
What happened to this woman to make her feel like she was doing such an injustice to her husband? She got old. She got a life that consisted of more than just her romantic relationship.
I felt sorry for Dave. With my growing business, two kids and a home to manage, I simply didn't have the time or energy for him anymore.
Never fear, though, she was able to turn around the travesty that was her marriage and she thankfully gives the rest of us a few tips. The first one is so important that she reiterates it in the last point, so I thought I'd share and let you all know the most crucial place for you all to start on your journey:
1. Offer Compliments! Make an effort to compliment your partner every day. I know, it's hard to even consider this being that no one ever says "Thanks for unloading the dishwasher," or "You look amazing today!" The goal is to focus on your own behaviors and see where they take you. Compliments such as "Thanks for trimming the trees today, they look great," or "You look gorgeous!" will change the tone of your relationship.
Thank your husband for doing household chores. Everyone knows this is your job as a woman, so when he is kind enough to help you out of the goodness of his heart, you should really thank him for the extra effort.
4. Create New Habits. While it's easy to try these ideas once or twice, the truth is you have to put in real effort and be consistent if you want to see results. Our society is all about immediate gratification, but in this case, you have to work for it. The question to ask is, "Is my relationship worth it?" Compliment your man daily, give him a solid 20 minutes of you time every day, plan weekly date nights and have some good old-fashioned fun."
Don't just tell him the first time he takes out the trash how much you appreciate it. Compliment everything. Compliment his clothes. Compliment his ability to shower. Compliment how he eats. Compliment how not old and boring he is compared to you.
I fell like we are really learning a lot about how to improve ourselves. But even the author knows that it can't just be about us, right?!
It's so easy to be apathetic and lament, "Why is this up to me, he doesn't do any of these things!"
Exactly! Finally she begins to realize that it's not just our fault, that maybe the husbands have also changed some! Nope, just kidding, that's your fault too, silly!
Could it be that your partner is so disconnected that he doesn't even think it's possible to reconnect again?
So there you go, Groupthinkers. I've found the secret to marital happiness in this article.
I was no longer the girl my husband married, but I realized it before it was too late because he was too kind to tell me.
I'll say it since your husbands are probably too nice to tell you: Go forth and be way less old and awful! You're welcome!