Tonight, someone asked me if it would be alright if he objectified me a little bit. First thought: WHAT??!? NO. The answer is always NO. Second thought: WHAT THE HELL??? Third, of course, was: Where the hell is he going with this? I had to find out.
I of course told him no, I prefer to not be objectified. He said it was good, though. It turned out, he just wanted to tell me I should wear skirts more often; that I had great legs, and had no one ever told me that before?
So this was his version of giving me a compliment.
He is so weird. I will get into that another time, but he's middle-aged and gay, and I feel like he was quite the NYC Club Boy in his youth. (None of this bothers me. It just fills in some holes in character for you.) I still find his phrasing strange. "May I objectify you," from a gay man, is just as creepy as from a straight one, right??? Why would you say that to someone, when you just want to give them a pretty harmless compliment?
AND THEN! he started asking other people about my great legs. If I was uncomfortable about your compliment, why would you spread it around to others????????????
Also, yes, I know I have great legs. I don't like skirts because I prefer jeans. I prefer to show off my great legs in skinny jeans, and I don't need to know any man's opinion on them, unless I'm trying to get his pants off. Period.