... in the social media era. Please no mainpaging (not that anyone would, but just in case).

There isn't much to say here, this is just breaking my heart.

A few years ago I worked in a First Nations reserve for two summers and lived there too. A lot of the kids I worked with, age 5-15 at the time, have been adding me on Facebook over the years. It has been so brutal. So many statuses about wanting to die, statuses about drugs and gangs, awful sex drama, all with kids. This has a lot to do with the SES conditions on that reserve, the quality of the school and available role models, etc etc. This is not a commentary on Native youth at all - just getting that out of the way.

So, one particularly troubled boy fathered a child recently. I think he's around 14 and the mother is also young, although her I don't know. They aren't together. He posts this to his Facebook feed as 'evidence' that she is a bad mom - the photo is accompanied by a raft of advice to use this to get custody, charge her with child neglect, kidnap his child to rescue her, etc etc. One person - one - said "hey Brad*, this could be postpartum depression. Is she getting help? Please help her get help." It doesn't look like she received any comments like that herself. (I'm on my phone, I have no idea where this photo will show up!)

This is partly encouraging, maybe. I have been seeing how much less private personal crises can be for kids so used to sharing every thought and action. I've seen so many statuses asking for help, begging for it; I've seen statuses saying "if 30 people comment on this I won't kill myself tonight". In a way, I'm so glad this is public, and someone can maybe intervene. But with some kids it's so frequent that they might one day not get those comments or likes, might not get that attention.


I don't think it's better, but it's changing, and it is so so hard to see.

Is anyone else encountering this on their social media? At what point do you intervene with kids you never talk to anymore?