I've never been close with my father and I haven't spoken to him or heard anything from him in about 9 years now. I've tried to google him, and it's like he just fell off the face of the planet or something. But I'm not trying to find him, I'm trying to find my former stepmom. They were married for a hot minute when I was a kid until she figured out that he was batshit crazy. We kept seeing each other even after they divorced and she was like a mom to me. We lost touch when I was 14 and she was going through a nasty divorce.

After extensive searching, I've found what I think maybe her phone number and address. I would love to see her again, but I don't know how to go about this. Do I call? Do I send her a letter? What if she doesn't want to hear from me? Has it been too long to even try to do this? Should I just let it go? I don't know what I'm doing.