TW: death, cancer

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My dad was advised by his doctors to stop his cancer treatment since it isn’t working. I have maybe, rough estimate, six months to a year with him, with the caveat in place, of course, that these things do whatever the fuck they want.

Is it weird? inappropriate? out of line? to say I’d be honored to write Dad’s obituary or give the eulogy? Would this be best left to discuss with my mom and brothers after my dad is gone?

Sorry, I know this is fucked up, but it has been weighing heavily on me lately as I cope with this. I’m a writer so I think that is just naturally where my mind goes because it gives me a “productive” way to cope, words on a page. I catch myself mentally composing bits and pieces when I can’t sleep at night.

Is there a protocol or etiquette for this?

My dad isn’t likely to be offended, he gets me pretty well even if we argue a lot, but the last thing I want is to lose him with this weighing on his mind.

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Thanks in advance.