I've drafted approx. 2 million posts asking for advice about how to handle a situation with a friend, but what it really boils down to is that I can't go out as much due to work and migraines triggered by an irregular sleep schedule and booze, and she still goes out a lot and thinks I'm lame. We try to make plans to do non-boozey stuff, but it rarely happens. There are certain events occurring in her life that make really worried for her safety, but I don't know how to talk to her about them without her thinking that I'm speaking from a place of smug married. It's 100% not about judging whatever choices she makes. It IS 100% about encouraging her to avoid things that make her healthy and happy, instead of choices that make her feel bad about herself. (She'll vacillate between saying she wants to make changes in her life because X event was really scary, and then saying that X event wasn't scary because it was caused by Y, no big deal.)
How have you addressed similar situations?