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I love my dad, but my god he can say some stupid stuff. Usually I just ignore it but this time, I couldn't let it go by.

It was, unsurprisingly, related to the whole "no makeup selfie". My godsister, Dad's goddaughter, posted a picture of herself up with a pasted comment from one of her friends as the caption, which I happened to totally agree with and formed the basis of why I didn't join in with this trend. This comment read:

"As much as it is brilliant that the no makeup selfies have raised over 2 million, there is an issue with the fact it is seen as brave for a women to go without makeup. It should not have to be a standard for women to wear makeup, nor applauded for the 'challenge' of going without. The society that exists today dictated bravery is a women being makeup free, which isn't a positive idea to promote."

My father then comments on the photo "real women don't need makeup".

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I'm sure he said this thinking it was supportive of his goddaughter and the message she was trying to convey, but as someone who prefers wearing makeup because I'm aware of how tired I look when I don't have at least a coat of mascara on, his comment really rubbed me the wrong way.

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So I sent him the following:

Hey Dad - saying "real women don't need makeup" is not a nice or supportive thing to say. A woman is no less "real" because she wears makeup than because she doesn't have curves. I get that this was meant to be positive, but this "real women do/don't..." attitude sets up an "us vs them" dichotomy and is ultimately totally unhelpful, and in some cases harmful, to women and to the way we see ourselves in the appearance-obsessed society we live in. It's society that needs to be changed, and women who happen to like to wear makeup, or feel like they do need makeup to be comfortable, shouldn't be shamed for feeling this way because of the society we live in.

UGH. Stop saying one type of woman is the epitome of womanhood, it's shitty, unsupportive, and hurtful to women everywhere.

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