Thank you all so much for your wisdom and support GT, you’re all fantastic!
We went and got a bunch of groceries using his parents’ credit card yesterday, at his insistence. The fridge and pantry are stocked, it’s such a relief!
He didnt buy any beer on that trip, but when he realised we forgot to buy pasta for our pasta bake (nailed it!) and went back in the evening, he looked at me and said, I’m going to get beer, but I’ll only drink two tonight. I just shrugged and said ok.
I’m going to go see my doctor and set up a counseling appointment, and I’m going to go to an Al-anon meeting. I’m leaning towards not telling him about the Al-anon. I don’t know.
Thanks again to everyone who took the time to read or respond!