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I can't decide if this person is for real, or if Prudie's been had again...

Q. Excessive Feminists: I'm a woman in a very masculine scientific field, and I've found that many women involved in feminist circles want to hear about my experience. I absolutely agree that there are biases against women in the workplace, and love a good discussion, but I have never really suffered from sexism. First, I'm young enough (27) that I'm not eligible for senior positions anyway, and second, I've never been flirted with in an appropriate manner, or felt I wasn't listened to. Maybe I'm just awesome at playing the man's game (or in denial and don't have an eye for sexism?). More probably, I landed in a great environment that just suffers from a dearth of females because there are too few candidates. But even quite reasonable and pleasant women get aggressive when I don't have anything to contribute to their list of crimes committed by the patriarchy. I don't want to lie, but I'm not sure how to handle inquiries when I can't give them the story they want.

It gets even better in the followup:

Q. Re: Excessive Feminists: I'm the original writer of this question (thanks for publishing!). I know a lot of very reasonable feminists who advocate true equal rights. But what I was stunned by in the last two years or so were women (we're talking a dozen or so, who know each other usually), often quite active on Tumblr or blogs, who seem to seek sensationalism rather than a more nuanced debate (the latter is evidently more complex, and maybe less satisfying). I don't want to cast a bad light on feminism, far from it. Thinking on it further, I wonder about how to deal with the people with loud skewed views, and if there's a chance for me to convince these women to use their passion (and Internet visibility) in a more useful way.


As far as I can tell, the translation is: Dear Prudie, people on Tumblr don't agree with me. How can I convince them that I'm extra special and deserving of my own special acknowledgements, or at least make them talk less about what they want to talk about, and more about me?

It's one thing to have never experienced sexism in a STEM field (and wow, would that be awesome if it were the case for more of us) and another to write in to an advice columnist all blinky-blinky doe-eyed about how to talk to the meeaaannn feminists who just don't get you. If this person is real, I'm betting she's insufferable.

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