We are still thinking and considering, but I’m guessing that this week Mexador and I will decide to reschedule our wedding.
Not that we won’t get married. Mexador and I have been together for almost 16 years and we are READY. So we’d do a private ceremony with our parents, the maid of honor, and the best man at our original venue, which said they can absolutely scale down the event and the cost. We’ll still have a photographer and we may add a ceremony video that we can show my grandparents.
So far my grandpa and grandma and one of my close aunts have said they won’t be comfortable coming in October. One of my bridesmaids has been told by her job that she’ll have to take leave for a two week quarantine after traveling (cross country) and she’s ready to do it but I feel guilty.
Its coming down to if we have our wedding October 17, will it be what we want with who we want? Can we still do a mashed potato bar and have dancing and all my college friends smushed in at one table for the first time in years? Or will everyone be wearing masks and sitting far apart and worrying who might be infected? Will my grandparents be sitting at home thinking of everyone else all together without them?
So after making the call this weekend, the next step would be to plan the reception for 2021. How does a wedding work if we’re already married? Do we do a vow renewal? Do we show the ceremony video on a projector? Do we do first dances? Do we do first dances at the private ceremony even without a DJ or will that just look sad? Throw out any and all ideas because I’ve realized the best way for me to feel the best about all of this is to plan, plan, plan.