An old high school sports teammate is going through hell right now - her mother had a stroke (and has been rendered pretty much incapacitated for the time being) and she’s posted a bit on Facebook. We are not close at all, and were never really super close, but a closer friend of mine from adulthood just lost her mother to a stroke (everyone about the same ages) and I just feel inclined to send her a message and just let her know I’m thinking about her.
To be clear, I don’t think she cares whether I am thinking about her because again, we don’t really communicate. Would it be a good or bad thing? I don’t want to add feelings to the feelings fire for her if maybe she wasn’t expecting a message right then, or something. I also would, of course, not expect her to necessarily respond (and I’d let her know that).