I just came back from a not unstressful week long vacation with my boyfriend’s family. He and I have been together for 9 years now, so while they are not officially my in-laws, we kind of feel stuck with each other, haha.
They are VERY Southern and conservative. Yes, I know not all Southerners are conservative, but they very vocally make the link all the time. To a degree, I try to go a long with it. Like, I read Garden and Gun magazine while I’m down there (it’s actually pretty entertaining). And ask them for recipes for food and whatnot, and am self-deprecating about my “Yankee green beans” and such. I even grin and bear the passive aggressive “Bless your heart” type comments his mom makes all the time.
But there are certain things that I won’t go along with. Like when they are casually racist (note that I am not white). I just remove myself from the conversation. Also this time around, I did make remarks back about things. Like when his dad was like “They don’t know if Eric Garner actually died from the chokehold! Also I used to put people in chokeholds all the time and nobody died!” Me: “Yes they do know. And uh, he DID die soooo....” Or when they’re like “Can you believe they make you take a CLASS if you want to carry a concealed weapon?” Me: “Yes, yes I can. I should hope people have to take classes before owning things that can kill me!” And also his extended family had a Confederate flag flying from their beach house. I actually didn’t get into that because my I didn’t want my head to explode.
I guess I could have made more an effort, but I spent a lot of time on my own actually. I just didn’t want to get into it, and this was my vacation too! I skipped out on my usual (fun) beach vacation with my best friend to do this trip instead. It was too hot to spend a lot of time on the beach, so I read on my own and watched Netflix in our room or went to yoga classes in town. I know they think that is standoffish and were definitely gossiping about it, but I felt really DGAF about it this year. Also, my boyfriend and I took a day trip to Savannah, and I feel like they thought it was my plan to get away from them (which it was a little bit, but it was his idea too).
So yeah, I kind of feel like I need a vacation from my vacation. I don’t dislike them exactly....but they’re definitely people I can only take in small doses.