Hey guys, it’s been a while, there are a lot of things going on in my life right now and I’m super overwhelmed with everything & it sucks & I’m exhausted & in pain and not achieving anything I want and this is not helping me recover or have stable health. However, what I’m going through is small potatoes compared to what other members of my family are.
One of my uncles was diagnosed earlier this year with cancer between his lungs. Despite a bad prognosis, it looked like they fixed it with radiation, they considered him cured & everyone was happy & relieved. A few weeks ago he went to the doc cause he wasn’t feeling too great and there was a weird patch of skin. She said “ah that’s nothing, but just in case I’ll send you to the specialist.” Who said “Ah that’s nothing! But, just in case, I’ll send it to the lab.” And then he got a call asking him to come in, lay his ass down in the imaging chamber and get a good look. They found cancer had spread to 10 different places in his body. He’s also been suffering from severe headaches and although the results haven’t come in, there is a good chance it’s in his brain too. Although they are still doing certain therapies right now & they haven’t given a definitive answer, it doesn’t look good. On top of that, his other brother (not my dad) also has cancer now, although the prognosis seems good.
I’m planning on going over there for a visit in a few weeks since I’m too busy right now and when I do I want to bring him something. (I saw today is his birthday on top of everything else and I haven’t called or texted yet but I will.) We aren’t particularly close, although he was always around when I was a kid, though we didn’t always get along. He was my teacher in high school for two years, I babysat his kids (and made a mess of his house), he lent me the family garage thing (hard to explain) for my birthday when I was 18 (& I made a mess of it, see a pattern here?) I see him once or twice a year now at family gatherings around Christmas and so on. I enjoy his company & respect him a great deal and I feel so so terrible for him. Over the years I’ve often thought I wanted to spend more time with my family, I just never managed too and I feel all the more guilty for that. He’s a musician (guitar & bass & vocals) and sometimes performs with his daughter and our cousin/nephew but other than that, I’m ashamed to say, I really don’t know that much about him...
What do you give a man who is staring the end of his own life in the face in a very unpleasant way? What do you say? Is there anything you even can say? What gift is appropriate? I don’t even know where to start..