My mom is part of an ex-Jehovah's Witness group on Facebook. She joined a little after my older brother's wife sent her a letter of disassociation. The letter stated that neither my brother nor his wife would be associating with my mother any longer because she has been away from "The Truth" for so long. The letter also said (this is new to me because she didn't tell me this) that my brother and his wife think that my mother is "worthy of death for turning her back on the true God."
My mother is having a really hard time with this. She posted to the Ex-JW group's Facebook wall a little bit ago. (Here is a post about the letter from my bro, if anyone's interested: http://groupthink.jezebel.com/god-wants-you-… ) She basically said that her son's birthday is coming up in February and she is considering driving three hours to his house to confront him. To paraphrase what she said, "I didn't raise a coward. I want my son to look me in the eye and tell me that he wants nothing to do with me, and that I'm deserving of death."
She can't call because he blocked her phone number. She wrote and it was returned, unopen.
When I first read the FB post she made, my initial reaction was rage. I tried to reply (something like, "DO IT. I'd like to see him hide behind his wife and his religion when his mom is at the door demanding to see him. He's a coward.") but it wouldn't let me post it because I'm not a member of the group. I'm a little glad it didn't let me, too, because I don't think that's what she needs to hear, judging from her replies to other comments on the post.
What would you do? What can I say to make my mom feel better about her oldest child completely forsaking her? She said in her post that she was crying so hard and she needed advice. I almost felt like I was intruding because she has never been that brutally honest with me.
ETA: My mom didn't realize that her FB friends (many of whom are current JWs) could see her comments on the ex-JW page. Now I feel like an asshole for posting a ranty status update about her post. D'oh. Mom, learn the technologies, jeez.